1. Prepare a Safety Plan
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Pack an emergency bag with essentials: ID, money, medications, clothes, important documents (birth certificates, social security cards, legal papers).
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Keep the bag hidden or leave it with a trusted friend.
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Identify a safe place to go (shelter, trusted family, or friend).
2. Reach Out for Support
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Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text “START” to 88788 (U.S.).
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Contact a local domestic violence shelter—they can provide safe housing, counseling, and legal support.
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Let a trusted person know your plan and set up code words for when you’re in danger.
3. Protect Your Digital Safety
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Use a safe device (library, work, friend’s phone) to search for help.
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Clear browsing history and disable location tracking on apps/phones.
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Change passwords to email, bank, and social media accounts.
4. Choose the Right Time
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Plan to leave when the abuser is away or less likely to notice.
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Have transportation ready (own car, rideshare, or a friend).
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Avoid confrontation if possible—safety is more important than closure.
5. Involve the Authorities if Needed
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Call 911 if you are in immediate danger.
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Ask police for an escort to collect belongings if returning to the home.
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File for a restraining/protection order as soon as possible.
6. Secure Ongoing Safety
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Stay at a confidential shelter or change your location if possible.
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Inform your children’s school or daycare about custody and safety concerns.
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Vary routines (work routes, shopping times, school drop-offs).
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Keep emergency numbers with you at all times.
⚠️ Important Note: The most dangerous time for a survivor is when they decide to leave. Abusers often escalate when they feel they are losing control. Having support, planning carefully, and not leaving alone if possible can increase safety.

